I'm the wife of a combat veteran and the mother of two adorable kids. My husband was injured in Iraq and has severe PTSD and a mild brain injury. This blog is a way to reflect as we fight PTSD through the good times and bad.
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime
There's a quote I've heard before and while looking it up I realized that it's actually a poem. I couldn't find the author's name but here it is below. I think most people have heard the beginning line before:
Reason Season Lifetime
People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, It is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, Or to provide you with guidance and support, To aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, It is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, The season eventually ends.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; Those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person anyway; And put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life, Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Author – Unknown
It seems that a lot of friends have come and gone in my life. Some have been my own choice, and others have been fate. I'm sad to say that it seems another friend's season with me has come to an end. This one was based on my own choice, but it still hurts. I'm not perfect, I am human. I'd like to not hold a grudge, be able to move past the pain and the feeling of being deserted in my time of need but I can't.
You see, a friend of mine, someone I had become closer to throughout the last few months, and had hoped to continue to strengthen a bond with, hurt me. It was during last month during my whole surgery ordeal when I was laid up in a hospital room and my kids and husband were left at home. Offers of help and assistance came once....and I took her up on her offer of meals and support, only to have her never carry through.
I got it. She was going through some hard times in her personal life and although I was disappointed with her, I decided to let it go. Until about a week after I was out of the hospital when a mutual friend ended up with surgery for her tonsils. This friend of mine organized meals delivered to her house for a week, and other supports. I am not begrudging someone help. But I felt so......alone. So abandoned. Why were my needs not as important as this other mutual friends?
That whole situation put a bad taste in my mouth. I have since distanced myself from her. She hasn't called, hasn't texted, hasn't facebooked. Perhaps this friend was not quite the friend I thought she was. However, I am grateful for her. She came along when I didn't really have any other supports around me. She listened, made me laugh, and gave hugs. And for all that, I thank her.